How to Find the Right Divorce Lawyer in 10 Steps


How to find the right divorce lawyerPhoto of Speaks Law Firm's Lead Divorce Attorney, Ashley SmithDivorce lawyers help people with Divorce and Separation.  Important legal issues such as child custody, child support, property division, and spousal support are resolved through Separation and Divorce.  The right divorce attorney may be able to help you determine if divorce is necessary.  Should you get a divorce?  What will life look like after divorce?  If divorce is necessary, can I acheive my objectives through divorce? 

An effective divorce lawyer may be able to resolve these issues by agreement without the expense and risk of a trial. Even if these issues cannot be resolved by agreement, an effective family law attorney can help you know and understand your rights and advocate for your best interest. Our lead Divorce Lawyer, Ashley Smith, has provided steps that are intended to help you choose the right divorce lawyer for you.

1.  Start immediately. 

Get started immediately finding your lawyer.It is important to have a plan in place as soon as possible. By consulting with the right attorney prior to your separation, you will know what to do and what NOT to do.  Many people make mistakes during the early stages of a separation or divorce that can have a negative effect on the outcome of the case.

2.  Identify your jurisdiction.

Where do you, your spouse and your children live? If you live in North Carolina, North Carolina law will control.  Your lawyer will need to be licensed in North Carolina.

3.  Identify your region.

It is best to get a local lawyer who practices in county where you live because she will have knowledge of local people, places and practices.


identify the divorce lawyersIdentify the family law lawyers in the region of your jurisdiction.  Even criminal defense lawyers have a general understanding of how family law works.  They may even be able to settle your divorce case before trial.  However, is the Custody Agreement reasonable?  Is Property Division fair under the circumstances?  Is your lawyer able to get you the best possible result?

5.  Check their scores.

Perform an on-line search to identify a list of 3 family law attorneys in the correct county of North Carolina.  Consider their experience, recognition and professional conduct to develop this list.  Avvo, Super Lawyers, Top 100 or Best Lawyers are national independent research services that identify, evaluate and grade lawyers for each practice area.  The top lawyers will be identified or graded as such.  You can determine whether each lawyer has been identified as one of the best lawyers in the area of family law by looking at his or her website or the website associated with each ranking service.

6.  Read the reviews.

Read your lawyer's reviews.Perform additional on-line research to determine what former clients say about the lawyers or law firms you are considering.  Client testimonials or reviews are a great source of information.  Even great lawyers can have a negative review.  It may not be authentic. It may be generated by a competitor.  It may reflect an unusual set of circumstances. However, if you look at all the reviews together you should get a good idea of how the lawyer’s previous clients feel about the services they received.

7.  Consult with each attorney.

Make an appointment for a phone or face-to-face consultation with each lawyer on your list.  Experienced divorce lawyers charge a fee for the consultation.  This is different from Injury, Criminal or some other Lawyers. 

There are several reasons for this.  First, it takes time for us to gather the information necessary to give helpful advice.  In addition, if we talk with you about your case it may prevent us from representing your spouse.  Finaly, many people seek the advice of experienced divorce attorneys.  If we did not charge a fee, we would do free consultations all day every day.

Ask about attorney fees and costs during the initial consultation.  You are likely to obtain a better outcome with an experienced and effective divorce attorney than you would if you represented yourself or hired the cheapest lawyer you could find.  In addition, your attorney can avoid common mistakes that cause harm to your finances and your family.

Beware of lawyer who tells you how “AGGRESSIVE!!!” he is.  Overly aggressive lawyers can result in an unnecessary trial.  An overly aggressive lawyer can get you in a $10,000 fight over a $25 toaster.

You are likely to achieve the best outcome if you are represented by a divorce attorney who is aggressive but also reasonable. Your divorce lawyer should not prey on your emotions or seek to inflame you. She should identify the objectives that are most important to you and focus on accomplishing those.

8.  Select your attorney. 

selecting your divorce lawyerDuring the identification, research and consultation process, one lawyer or law firm should feel right.  It will feel right when the people with whom you meet are experienced, knowledgeable and professional and when you feel like they are genuinely concerned for your best interests.

9.  Focus on you.

After you have selected your attorney, your focus should be on you.  First, you will have to determine if divorce is necessary.  Is reconcilliation possible?  If not, you will have specific and important tasks to accomplish.

Divorce can be challenging.  It may require great effort to maintain your relationships with your employer, family, children and friends.  Your attorney may ask you for information, and it is important to provide this information in an organized and efficient manner.  She will ask that you refrain from criticizing your spouse in public or in private.  These seemingly simple tasks can be difficult.  It is imperative that you have the right attorney in place in order to meet these challenges effectively.

10.  Communicate with your attorney.

Communicate with your lawyerTell your attorney your objectives and priorities.  Your attorney will use this information to create a proposed agreement.  Your attorney will use that same information to negotiate with the opposing lawyer to obtain an agreement or judgment that reflects your objectives and priorities.

Speaks Law Firm

Speaks Law FirmFollowing these steps is the best way to find the right Divorce Attorney for you. The Speaks Law Firm has extensive experience and proven record of success in Divorce, Custody and other Domestic cases.  We are comprised of outstanding legal professionals who care deeply for our clients.

The Speaks Law Firm has achieved National Recognition by attorney ranking sites such as AVVO and Super Lawyers.  Specifically, Clarke Speaks is rated "10.0" out of a maximum score of 10.0.  We are rated  "Superb".  Superb is the highest possible rating.  In addition, for the second consecutive year Clarke has been selected to the Super Lawyers and the National Trial Lawyers Top 100 Trial Lawyers. Recently, Clarke was awarded the National Association of Distinguished Counsel's Nations Top Attorneys designation.  We look forward to speaking with you about your case.

We are happy to answer your questions.

You can find important information about Divorce and Custody on our website, but you are welcome to ask your questions.  We answer these kinds of questions for people everyday.  We are happy to answer them for you.  Call now for more information.

Call Speaks Law Firm if you were injured in an accident.You can reach out to us several different ways.  You can call us at (910) 341-7570 between 8:30 am and 5:30 pm Monday through Friday.  You can chat with an online operator anytime by clicking on the live chat box below and to the left.  You can email us anytime by filling out the contact form on the right.  However, you choose to contact us, we are glad that you made that decision.  We are here to help.

Following these steps is the best way to find the right Divorce Lawyer for you.  For more information, please contact us by phone or chat or you can complete the contact form by clicking here.

This information is provided exclusively by Speaks Law Firm.  Please call (910) 341-7570 with additional questions.



Following these steps is the best way to find the right family law attorney for you.  This information is provided by Speaks Law Firm.  Please call (910) 341-7570 for more information.

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