National attention has focused on problem of severe domestic violence and domestic murder.
Because of delays in reporting, nationwide statistics are always a few years old. But according to a recent commentary piece in the Washington Times, the number of domestic violence murders has spiked in several U.S. locations, including areas in Texas, New York, Florida, and North Carolina.
In fact, the rising tide of fatal domestic violence was memorialized in a recent candlelit ceremony at Riverfront Park in Wilmington—a moving demonstration from a community wracked by tragedy.
Some experts see a connection between difficult economic times and violence. When household finances are in disarray, some people take out their frustrations on their spouse or relationship partner.
The divorce connection
Some ideas about these rising statistics connect domestic violence to divorce. In this interpretation, the rejection inherent in a divorce or separation can trigger a murderous rage in the rejected spouse or domestic partner.
Some statistics seems to validate this link between divorce and domestic violence:
- About 20 percent of divorces are filed because of already existing household violence.
- More women seek medical care for domestic violence after they have been separated from their partners. In fact, battered women are three times more likely to seek emergency room care for domestic violence injuries after a separation than before.
- The risk of death or severe injury increases by 75 percent when women leave the man who has been physically abusing them.
Does this mean that a woman should stay in an abusive relationship for fear she might be murdered if she leaves? Certainly not! However, it does suggest that that leaving the relationship must be thoroughly planned in advance. Some issues that need to be considered:
- Finding a secure place to live for a few weeks after separation.
- Making sure witnesses are on hand when your partner or spouse is informed of the breakup. A public place is suggested.
- Making security arrangements so you cannot be assaulted on your way to work, doing errands, or any other time you must go to a location your spouse or husband might expect you.
- Contacting law enforcement when you feel threatened.
A compassionate law firm can help
While a restraining order by itself cannot prevent a domestic violence attack, it does reinforce police willingness to help you. The Wilmington family law attorneys at Speaks Law Firm are ready to help North Carolina victims of domestic violence get protective orders against an angry spouse. Call 877-593-4233 toll-free today to get answers to your questions about divorce and separation. We’re here to give your case our full attention.