EP 10: Finding Relief Through Comedy with Tara Brown (Part 3)

Welcome to the catastrophic comeback podcast with American Injury Lawyer Clark speaks, helping you find hope, purpose and joy after a catastrophic injury.

Well, so who are the Who are some of the people that are in the routine routines most your, your family and friends you're interested in whether you come in contact

with, honestly, it's me. And it's not even it's not a vain thing. It's just life that happens to me. I'm working a bit now about my grandmother, who's not to see who my grandmother had this one and joke, like, not a joke, but she was one of those people. You ever have friends in your life? Who say, Hey, can you pick me this up? Pick pick this up for me, and I'll reimburse you when you get back. And my grandmother would never give me the money back. Right? So stuff like that. But I tend to keep it more self focused. Because I don't want I honestly don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. And it was funny, because when I was at my old job, and my old, one of the executive sets, because do you make jokes about us? And you're tested? No, sir, I do not. Like, I want to keep this job. So no, but no, it's more, like I said, it's very self deprecating. So the focus tends to be on me. And it's funny, because sometimes I go to comedy clubs. And I'll see people sitting in the front row, and they look scared out of their mind. And then I'll go say something, and they engage. And I say, Oh, they think I'm wondering that, you know, a lot of times, comedians will pick on an audience, I'm like, I don't do that. Like, if I'm engaging with you. It's more like it's more fun and light hearted. And again, the joke is always going to be about me against me. And so I'm gonna have to realize that people get a little nervous when they sit in the front row of comedy clubs. I was like, Nope, just about me.

We'll see. You mentioned self deprecating. Can you give us an example of some of that material?

Well, even when I talked about the whole thing with the ladder, and then just like, you know, is it the 200 pounds that like, hard 200. And then I said, Well, I don't have time to go to the plus side, stepstool store, you know, so whatever. So those type of jokes. And, again, I put myself out there more, because I want people to see like, it's okay to laugh at yourself. Even you know, when I talk about being a woman of a certain age, and I say, you know, I'm at this age where if I dropped something on the floor, I have to decide how bad I really wouldn't need it. You know, so that kind of stuff give if I'm laughing at me, it gives you permission to laugh at me. And it also gives the audience permission to laugh at themselves. But I will tell you this, one of the things I had to move away from when I first started doing comedy, is, again, in feeling insecure and feeling vulnerable on stage, a lot of my material. When I first started, I did a lot of weight related jokes, kind of like I'm gonna make the joke about myself. So you don't make it about me and that sort of thing. And then two things happened for me to change. The way in which I approach that is I remember I did like one weight joke too many. And a woman in the audience looked almost like she pitied me. And I was like, Well, that's what not what I was going for. And then secondly, my mom was at a show. And after the show, she goes, I don't like to, to do so many weight jokes. And that kind of pricked me. And I realized, you know, I'm funny, and I didn't need that crutch, to do that. So then I kind of moved away from that. So I have a thing or two here, well, I'll say something, but it's not like, I'm a big girl. I'm a big girl, you know, that kind of thing? Yeah, no,

I understand. A lot of sense. Yeah. Well, let me so one of the things that I, I believe, is that the things in our lives, that are, that are adversity, you know, the adversity in our lives is not always a curse, sometimes it's a blessing in disguise, and sometimes these things that, that come into our paths that are really difficult, that are really tough to, to overcome and to address and to deal with, in end up being things that are blessings, you know, for example, you know, growing up my dad was not involved in our lives as maybe he should be and, and did you know was not, not not necessary. But so so as a kid, that was like a source of financial difficulty of self esteem of all these different things. As now that I'm grown it I look back on that as a blessing because it has really changed and shaped the relationship that I have with my wife and kids, you know, which is which is the great blessing of my life. And and so, how do you feel about that? Do you feel like adversity is is a lot of times a blessing in disguise. Oh,

my goodness, where do we start with that? So I grew up to a single mom, like I said to I grew up in Brownsville, Brooklyn. and which we're noticing about browsers, one of the toughest neighborhoods in Brooklyn and eventually I moved to Bedford Stuyvesant, Brooklyn, in Brooklyn. My mom is so funny. I remember being an adult. And I said to my mom decided, You know what I think I would love to have us have a loved member when you used to make like, neck bone, string beans and white potatoes. I really would love that and she goes, girl, we're eating that we were broke. But I had no concept of that because she never made him feel like that. She just did what she needed to do. My mother spent a long career working for the Veterans Administration Hospital, and she worked nights and she I had to be our fate was put on display way before we knew we were putting it on the street because my mother went to work night she worked for the 12 at the VA hospital. I was a latchkey kid, which a lot of people I don't think know what a latchkey kid is anymore. But I was dependent on at a very young age to be responsible, because and I never wanted to let my mom down because I knew how hard she was working for us. And so my mom worked nights. And she prayed and said, If the Lord gave her a daytime job, she would give her life to Christ start going to church and give a lot of press. And that's it. She got it. And she did that. And so she we grew up together. And you know, and she liked to say we raised each other. And so we had a very, my mom and I are super close, when my mom My mom got married one day and got hit by a stray bullet, the next got shot. She was sitting in her her and her husband had just come from a day of shopping. And she was getting ready to exit the vehicle. And these two guys were shooting at each other. And because she was exiting vehicles, she got shot in the back of her head, had she been still sit in the car, she got shot in the back of her head. So to this day, she has a non a bullet from a non millimeter gun lodged in her head because they said if they took it out, it would be she would have trouble walking. So when I look at her and watch and what she sacrificed for me, you know, she's done. And so now I get the opportunity when I go places, especially for comedy to bring her along. I've just it just makes my heart so happy. I will never forget, I wasn't doing the show in Laughlin, Nevada, at a casino. And I couldn't see anybody room because we had to like set up. But I heard my mother's laughing, laughing. And that just made my life. So because I think about how we went through those times, the times that would lean and just all this kind of struggle. And you know, we live in a tough neighborhood where she got shot. And so and the Lord has us here. So again, when I go back to when I tell you, I'm 54 years old, I tell you that as a sense of looking at what God has brought us from. So yeah, I'm a firm believer that, you know, adversity can just, it makes you strong, it makes you humble and makes you appreciative. And she'll make me those neck bones and string beans and white. I'd get on over that.

Well, so you described your upbringing, you had a single mother latchkey kid, dangerous neighborhood mother is shot by a stray bullet. She's working a lot. You're, you're you've gotta go to school. You've got to have siblings.

No, I'm an only child.

So you spent a lot of time by yourself and growing up.

I did I tell people all the time. I'm an only child. I know how to play by myself. Like I don't need Yeah. And then my mom, she just she was so great. It just, you know, just being my friend like she she knew she knew how to be my mom. But she also was a friend and she just was my everything. She really, really was and is when

you guys were together. Let's say it was a Saturday. She wasn't working. It was a Sunday. She wasn't working. It was the two of you. You're growing up. Did was there a closeness there? Was there was there? Do you guys laugh a lot, even in spite of the difficult situations that you were in?

My mother is very funny. Like, I cut when I tell you a couple of lines of funny people. I'm not even kidding. My mother's friend, my grandfather restaurant. So was the funniest of all and one of the greatest sadnesses of my life is the fact that he's never gotten to see me do comedy because I love this. He would have loved this. And honestly, this comedy gene comes from this you asked if my mother was funny. Let me give you example how my mother's funny. I told her she gets shot so when I got the call because I wasn't living with her at the time I was living somewhere else. And when I got the call she got shot. No one kind of everyone was giving me random information but no one told me everything so all I'm thinking and my mother had a fur coat so I didn't have somebody shatter for the coat like no one had detailed. I didn't know where she got shot or whatever. So finally someone said to me, she I shot towards the bottom and I said okay, she's not going to die. So then I am Like out of my mind, my grandfather and I are going to the hospital and I'm in tears. So I see I finally lay eyes on her. And she goes, what happened? So what do you mean? What have Nina get shot? She goes, Oh, yeah, like she's, but this is what parents do and your parents, I'm guessing you do this? Sure, if you will always make sure your kids are okay. Right? She's a mess because of her. But she went past herself to say, let me make sure my kid knows I'm okay. So this she's cracking jokes to me. And she goes, you know, take cut off my girdle. And that just put that you know, but she was just trying to make it better for me. So, once she kind of got me calm, and we laughed about it. So she's really, really funny. And my mother just she she cracks me up. She's a swath of a lot of material also.

Well, so it seems like there are people you know, in the world, that are just that are just like that, that just like and when you when you say that, what I'm thinking is, we recently had a client who was catastrophically injured in a case, we were doing a video to describe the magnitude of his injuries and how it's affected his life and his family. And, you know, during the video, he becomes emotional. And because he just, he just, he's reflecting on how much impact this has had on his life, he becomes very emotional. And so I finished doing a video in in the videographer who's worked with me for a long time super talented guy is putting his equipment away. And I've been working with this guy. So when you work with these guys for a long time, you become close to them, and you become close to their families. And so then I become kind of emotional, I did my job and my job was over and now and I'm becoming emotional, and, and he's paralyzed from the neck down. And, and I'm just like, kind of unreasonably emotional for the circumstances. But uh, but what I but but what I can feel him doing, he can't really move. He can't move at all. But I can feel him sort of leaning in towards me. And he's like, he says to me, it's okay. It's okay. It's okay, counselor, I'm gonna be okay. I'm gonna be alright. And so he's trying to and it's kind of like, you're so you. Yes. You know, like, it's my job. You know, he's the one that's happened to deal with this. But he's, he is emotionally reaching out to me to console me and telling me it's going to be okay, and wants to take some of my pain away, which was so remarkable and touching to be. So it's just, that reminds me of, of the kind of person that your mother must. Must be. She's so

awesome. Like that. She's very, it's funny, because I'll have to tell her, when I'm telling her about a situation, I'll have to preface it by saying, I don't need you to fix it. Because parents fix that's what you all do. I don't have children. So I can't relate. But what I've seen with parents, and I've seen it with my own. You go into fix mode, like I tell you about an issue like okay, yesterday. Listen, Linda, I just need to read. I said you listen, it's okay. But she I'll never forget. And this is, like I said, She doesn't remember this. But I just said it was one of the coolest things ever. Like I remember being a teenager. And I want to go to a Run DMC concert. And I couldn't find anybody to go with me. And she goes, I'll go with you. And I was like, you weren't. But it was sweet. And she had no interest in when did she know who he was, who they were, who they were. But she was going to go with me because she knew there was something I wanted to do. And I told her, I said, I love that you did that. Now I talked to her and she quotes rappers to me, she's so funny. She goes, You know, it's like that boosts she's bad. Bootsy says, and I was like who? Else? Like how do you know these people? She's just really, really funny. So she's, she's the love of my life. She really is.

Well, so we're about out of time. But I don't know if it's because we're the same age or what but I have enjoyed so much talking to you. You've seen reference a loan makes it makes me think of 100 questions that I have for you. So maybe, maybe we can get you back to join us again. I

would love that. And thank you so much for having me. I'm glad we got a chance to do it. And thank you for just having an interest in wanting to talk to me. Oh

my gosh, I think that what you say and what I'm hoping is that maybe somebody will will have, you know, be going through a tough time that maybe as a result of an injury. And maybe as a result of hearing about to hear. They'll YouTube they'll look into go to they'll go to a show. They'll go to one of your clean comedy shows, and it'll brighten their day and help them maybe they'll see some of the other people that you've referred to. And they'll just sort of start thinking about funny things in our lives.

Yeah, sure they can go to Tara Brown, calm Money on social media Tara brown CAMI Tara brown comedy.com. But I do want to say this because I think this is important for us to remember, life comes at you fast, it comes at you hard. And sometimes it just feels like, When am I going to catch a break? Things get better? They always do, we have to remember that because when you're going through your Valley periods, and you just doesn't seem like there's any hope, I promise you, if you hang on, it's gonna get better. And it's not trying to be flipped or anything. It's just been my experience. So just kind of power through, you're gonna be okay, more people care than you think they do. And here's the other piece of it. Share your stories, talk to people don't hurt alone. A lot of times we go through things. And we feel like you know, whether it's shame or whatever, like, we can't tell anybody. There are people who love you. There are people who want to help you. There are people who can talk you through some things pray you through something. So I think it's important for us to kind of lean into those people who mean it to us and just know that it will get better.

Well, thank you so much. I think that's that's so helpful to, to me and to I think the people who I hope will listen to our show. So thank you, Tara, Tara, and I will look forward to seeing you at one of your shows. Well, hey, let me ask you this before we go when it When are your windy or your comedy? You don't you have you have a regular comedy thing that you host? Well,

I have a couple of things coming up. September 9 At the Met Museum in uptown Charlotte, I believe Thomas 330. I'm doing another clean comedy show. This is a family friendly one. And that's going to support the Queen City comedy experience, which is Charlotte's premier comedy festival that's going to be fun with and you know, with my clean comedy show, I've mixed stand up and improv the improv always goes over really well with the audience. So that September night is gonna be good. And then I also do a show called funny godmothers with another comedian. And we're gonna be a booth Playhouse on October 28. And you'll get to see me do a longer set for that until about 45 minutes worth the time and then we do a q&a with the audience. So it's a lot of

fun. That's fantastic. Okay, well, thank you so much for being here. Thank

you. Thanks for having me. Have a great day. Okay, take care. Bye. Bye. Bye. Thank you for joining

us, and we'll see you next time.

Welcome to the catastrophic comeback podcast with American Injury Lawyer Clark speaks, helping you find hope, purpose and joy after a catastrophic injury.

Well, so who are the Who are some of the people that are in the routine routines most your, your family and friends you're interested in whether you come in contact

with, honestly, it's me. And it's not even it's not a vain thing. It's just life that happens to me. I'm working a bit now about my grandmother, who's not to see who my grandmother had this one and joke, like, not a joke, but she was one of those people. You ever have friends in your life? Who say, Hey, can you pick me this up? Pick pick this up for me, and I'll reimburse you when you get back. And my grandmother would never give me the money back. Right? So stuff like that. But I tend to keep it more self focused. Because I don't want I honestly don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. And it was funny, because when I was at my old job, and my old, one of the executive sets, because do you make jokes about us? And you're tested? No, sir, I do not. Like, I want to keep this job. So no, but no, it's more, like I said, it's very self deprecating. So the focus tends to be on me. And it's funny, because sometimes I go to comedy clubs. And I'll see people sitting in the front row, and they look scared out of their mind. And then I'll go say something, and they engage. And I say, Oh, they think I'm wondering that, you know, a lot of times, comedians will pick on an audience, I'm like, I don't do that. Like, if I'm engaging with you. It's more like it's more fun and light hearted. And again, the joke is always going to be about me against me. And so I'm gonna have to realize that people get a little nervous when they sit in the front row of comedy clubs. I was like, Nope, just about me.

We'll see. You mentioned self deprecating. Can you give us an example of some of that material?

Well, even when I talked about the whole thing with the ladder, and then just like, you know, is it the 200 pounds that like, hard 200. And then I said, Well, I don't have time to go to the plus side, stepstool store, you know, so whatever. So those type of jokes. And, again, I put myself out there more, because I want people to see like, it's okay to laugh at yourself. Even you know, when I talk about being a woman of a certain age, and I say, you know, I'm at this age where if I dropped something on the floor, I have to decide how bad I really wouldn't need it. You know, so that kind of stuff give if I'm laughing at me, it gives you permission to laugh at me. And it also gives the audience permission to laugh at themselves. But I will tell you this, one of the things I had to move away from when I first started doing comedy, is, again, in feeling insecure and feeling vulnerable on stage, a lot of my material. When I first started, I did a lot of weight related jokes, kind of like I'm gonna make the joke about myself. So you don't make it about me and that sort of thing. And then two things happened for me to change. The way in which I approach that is I remember I did like one weight joke too many. And a woman in the audience looked almost like she pitied me. And I was like, Well, that's what not what I was going for. And then secondly, my mom was at a show. And after the show, she goes, I don't like to, to do so many weight jokes. And that kind of pricked me. And I realized, you know, I'm funny, and I didn't need that crutch, to do that. So then I kind of moved away from that. So I have a thing or two here, well, I'll say something, but it's not like, I'm a big girl. I'm a big girl, you know, that kind of thing? Yeah, no,

I understand. A lot of sense. Yeah. Well, let me so one of the things that I, I believe, is that the things in our lives, that are, that are adversity, you know, the adversity in our lives is not always a curse, sometimes it's a blessing in disguise, and sometimes these things that, that come into our paths that are really difficult, that are really tough to, to overcome and to address and to deal with, in end up being things that are blessings, you know, for example, you know, growing up my dad was not involved in our lives as maybe he should be and, and did you know was not, not not necessary. But so so as a kid, that was like a source of financial difficulty of self esteem of all these different things. As now that I'm grown it I look back on that as a blessing because it has really changed and shaped the relationship that I have with my wife and kids, you know, which is which is the great blessing of my life. And and so, how do you feel about that? Do you feel like adversity is is a lot of times a blessing in disguise. Oh,

my goodness, where do we start with that? So I grew up to a single mom, like I said to I grew up in Brownsville, Brooklyn. and which we're noticing about browsers, one of the toughest neighborhoods in Brooklyn and eventually I moved to Bedford Stuyvesant, Brooklyn, in Brooklyn. My mom is so funny. I remember being an adult. And I said to my mom decided, You know what I think I would love to have us have a loved member when you used to make like, neck bone, string beans and white potatoes. I really would love that and she goes, girl, we're eating that we were broke. But I had no concept of that because she never made him feel like that. She just did what she needed to do. My mother spent a long career working for the Veterans Administration Hospital, and she worked nights and she I had to be our fate was put on display way before we knew we were putting it on the street because my mother went to work night she worked for the 12 at the VA hospital. I was a latchkey kid, which a lot of people I don't think know what a latchkey kid is anymore. But I was dependent on at a very young age to be responsible, because and I never wanted to let my mom down because I knew how hard she was working for us. And so my mom worked nights. And she prayed and said, If the Lord gave her a daytime job, she would give her life to Christ start going to church and give a lot of press. And that's it. She got it. And she did that. And so she we grew up together. And you know, and she liked to say we raised each other. And so we had a very, my mom and I are super close, when my mom My mom got married one day and got hit by a stray bullet, the next got shot. She was sitting in her her and her husband had just come from a day of shopping. And she was getting ready to exit the vehicle. And these two guys were shooting at each other. And because she was exiting vehicles, she got shot in the back of her head, had she been still sit in the car, she got shot in the back of her head. So to this day, she has a non a bullet from a non millimeter gun lodged in her head because they said if they took it out, it would be she would have trouble walking. So when I look at her and watch and what she sacrificed for me, you know, she's done. And so now I get the opportunity when I go places, especially for comedy to bring her along. I've just it just makes my heart so happy. I will never forget, I wasn't doing the show in Laughlin, Nevada, at a casino. And I couldn't see anybody room because we had to like set up. But I heard my mother's laughing, laughing. And that just made my life. So because I think about how we went through those times, the times that would lean and just all this kind of struggle. And you know, we live in a tough neighborhood where she got shot. And so and the Lord has us here. So again, when I go back to when I tell you, I'm 54 years old, I tell you that as a sense of looking at what God has brought us from. So yeah, I'm a firm believer that, you know, adversity can just, it makes you strong, it makes you humble and makes you appreciative. And she'll make me those neck bones and string beans and white. I'd get on over that.

Well, so you described your upbringing, you had a single mother latchkey kid, dangerous neighborhood mother is shot by a stray bullet. She's working a lot. You're, you're you've gotta go to school. You've got to have siblings.

No, I'm an only child.

So you spent a lot of time by yourself and growing up.

I did I tell people all the time. I'm an only child. I know how to play by myself. Like I don't need Yeah. And then my mom, she just she was so great. It just, you know, just being my friend like she she knew she knew how to be my mom. But she also was a friend and she just was my everything. She really, really was and is when

you guys were together. Let's say it was a Saturday. She wasn't working. It was a Sunday. She wasn't working. It was the two of you. You're growing up. Did was there a closeness there? Was there was there? Do you guys laugh a lot, even in spite of the difficult situations that you were in?

My mother is very funny. Like, I cut when I tell you a couple of lines of funny people. I'm not even kidding. My mother's friend, my grandfather restaurant. So was the funniest of all and one of the greatest sadnesses of my life is the fact that he's never gotten to see me do comedy because I love this. He would have loved this. And honestly, this comedy gene comes from this you asked if my mother was funny. Let me give you example how my mother's funny. I told her she gets shot so when I got the call because I wasn't living with her at the time I was living somewhere else. And when I got the call she got shot. No one kind of everyone was giving me random information but no one told me everything so all I'm thinking and my mother had a fur coat so I didn't have somebody shatter for the coat like no one had detailed. I didn't know where she got shot or whatever. So finally someone said to me, she I shot towards the bottom and I said okay, she's not going to die. So then I am Like out of my mind, my grandfather and I are going to the hospital and I'm in tears. So I see I finally lay eyes on her. And she goes, what happened? So what do you mean? What have Nina get shot? She goes, Oh, yeah, like she's, but this is what parents do and your parents, I'm guessing you do this? Sure, if you will always make sure your kids are okay. Right? She's a mess because of her. But she went past herself to say, let me make sure my kid knows I'm okay. So this she's cracking jokes to me. And she goes, you know, take cut off my girdle. And that just put that you know, but she was just trying to make it better for me. So, once she kind of got me calm, and we laughed about it. So she's really, really funny. And my mother just she she cracks me up. She's a swath of a lot of material also.

Well, so it seems like there are people you know, in the world, that are just that are just like that, that just like and when you when you say that, what I'm thinking is, we recently had a client who was catastrophically injured in a case, we were doing a video to describe the magnitude of his injuries and how it's affected his life and his family. And, you know, during the video, he becomes emotional. And because he just, he just, he's reflecting on how much impact this has had on his life, he becomes very emotional. And so I finished doing a video in in the videographer who's worked with me for a long time super talented guy is putting his equipment away. And I've been working with this guy. So when you work with these guys for a long time, you become close to them, and you become close to their families. And so then I become kind of emotional, I did my job and my job was over and now and I'm becoming emotional, and, and he's paralyzed from the neck down. And, and I'm just like, kind of unreasonably emotional for the circumstances. But uh, but what I but but what I can feel him doing, he can't really move. He can't move at all. But I can feel him sort of leaning in towards me. And he's like, he says to me, it's okay. It's okay. It's okay, counselor, I'm gonna be okay. I'm gonna be alright. And so he's trying to and it's kind of like, you're so you. Yes. You know, like, it's my job. You know, he's the one that's happened to deal with this. But he's, he is emotionally reaching out to me to console me and telling me it's going to be okay, and wants to take some of my pain away, which was so remarkable and touching to be. So it's just, that reminds me of, of the kind of person that your mother must. Must be. She's so

awesome. Like that. She's very, it's funny, because I'll have to tell her, when I'm telling her about a situation, I'll have to preface it by saying, I don't need you to fix it. Because parents fix that's what you all do. I don't have children. So I can't relate. But what I've seen with parents, and I've seen it with my own. You go into fix mode, like I tell you about an issue like okay, yesterday. Listen, Linda, I just need to read. I said you listen, it's okay. But she I'll never forget. And this is, like I said, She doesn't remember this. But I just said it was one of the coolest things ever. Like I remember being a teenager. And I want to go to a Run DMC concert. And I couldn't find anybody to go with me. And she goes, I'll go with you. And I was like, you weren't. But it was sweet. And she had no interest in when did she know who he was, who they were, who they were. But she was going to go with me because she knew there was something I wanted to do. And I told her, I said, I love that you did that. Now I talked to her and she quotes rappers to me, she's so funny. She goes, You know, it's like that boosts she's bad. Bootsy says, and I was like who? Else? Like how do you know these people? She's just really, really funny. So she's, she's the love of my life. She really is.

Well, so we're about out of time. But I don't know if it's because we're the same age or what but I have enjoyed so much talking to you. You've seen reference a loan makes it makes me think of 100 questions that I have for you. So maybe, maybe we can get you back to join us again. I

would love that. And thank you so much for having me. I'm glad we got a chance to do it. And thank you for just having an interest in wanting to talk to me. Oh

my gosh, I think that what you say and what I'm hoping is that maybe somebody will will have, you know, be going through a tough time that maybe as a result of an injury. And maybe as a result of hearing about to hear. They'll YouTube they'll look into go to they'll go to a show. They'll go to one of your clean comedy shows, and it'll brighten their day and help them maybe they'll see some of the other people that you've referred to. And they'll just sort of start thinking about funny things in our lives.

Yeah, sure they can go to Tara Brown, calm Money on social media Tara brown CAMI Tara brown comedy.com. But I do want to say this because I think this is important for us to remember, life comes at you fast, it comes at you hard. And sometimes it just feels like, When am I going to catch a break? Things get better? They always do, we have to remember that because when you're going through your Valley periods, and you just doesn't seem like there's any hope, I promise you, if you hang on, it's gonna get better. And it's not trying to be flipped or anything. It's just been my experience. So just kind of power through, you're gonna be okay, more people care than you think they do. And here's the other piece of it. Share your stories, talk to people don't hurt alone. A lot of times we go through things. And we feel like you know, whether it's shame or whatever, like, we can't tell anybody. There are people who love you. There are people who want to help you. There are people who can talk you through some things pray you through something. So I think it's important for us to kind of lean into those people who mean it to us and just know that it will get better.

Well, thank you so much. I think that's that's so helpful to, to me and to I think the people who I hope will listen to our show. So thank you, Tara, Tara, and I will look forward to seeing you at one of your shows. Well, hey, let me ask you this before we go when it When are your windy or your comedy? You don't you have you have a regular comedy thing that you host? Well,

I have a couple of things coming up. September 9 At the Met Museum in uptown Charlotte, I believe Thomas 330. I'm doing another clean comedy show. This is a family friendly one. And that's going to support the Queen City comedy experience, which is Charlotte's premier comedy festival that's going to be fun with and you know, with my clean comedy show, I've mixed stand up and improv the improv always goes over really well with the audience. So that September night is gonna be good. And then I also do a show called funny godmothers with another comedian. And we're gonna be a booth Playhouse on October 28. And you'll get to see me do a longer set for that until about 45 minutes worth the time and then we do a q&a with the audience. So it's a lot of

fun. That's fantastic. Okay, well, thank you so much for being here. Thank

you. Thanks for having me. Have a great day. Okay, take care. Bye. Bye. Bye. Thank you for joining

us, and we'll see you next time.